I went shopping today I got nothing for myself
Since I had my daughter that is 6 years ago,I struggle to buy myself clothes, every time I see something I think about what Abeerah needs its been difficult.I went shopping today, but I got nothing for myself as I worry about a whole bunch of things and people.
When I eventually buy myself something I feel guilty about that as I think I could have used that money to buy Abeerah two more pairs of shoes its really difficult to break this cycle or way of thinking whatever you want to call it. I went to Woolworths today and I saw about five dresses that I really like and I seriously need them, but I painfully walked away because I have to be responsible with spending money.
Any mommies struggle with shopping for themselves, because I feel like I am losing my mind motherhood has taken over. Here is what is in my wardrobe that I can say it’s something I can wear to go out 2 pairs of pumps and 1 pair of sandals, one pair of jean that fits correctly and still in good condition and about four tops, Gosh its been a year since I bought bras which I seriously need and I cannot stop thinking about those dresses.
How do I go shopping for myself without worrying about what my daughter needs?
Moipone
A South African bloggers that enjoys sharing her experiences whether about a product or good/bad customer service. I started Ferocious Haven at the end of 2014 , now Life and Mo. I write about beauty products, product reviews , parenting journey and challenges and life and achieving personal finance.
16 Comments
Mrs Tubbs
You do need to be responsible, but you also need items for you. It’s a tricky balancing act. Good luck with figuring it out
Moipone Islam
Hi Mrs Tubbs
It is a tricky thank you I will somehow figure it out
Sarah
I know how you feel – every time I make it shopping with the twins (which isnt often!) I end up with lots of love,y things for them and nothing for me!!! #MarvMondays
Moipone Islam
Hi Sarah
I know what you mean yesterday went out to get myself dresses and guess what I ended up coming back with 4 dresses for my daughter 🙂 🙁
Thank you for visiting
Mum in Brum
I can’t remember the last time I went shopping and bought something for myself! I’m not even sure it’s the guilt, but more about the fact that I’m always in a rush these days with the little one – rushing to get home for lunch, or she’s kicking off because she needs a nap! I’m determined to go out soon alone and treat myself! #MarvMondays
Moipone Islam
Hi Mum in Brum
Love your determination I am going to join
Thank you for visiting 🙂
Izzie Anderton
Not easy is it?! I think as mum’s we always put our kids first, but occasionally we need to treat ourselves too. I’d be tempted to set aside a small amount of money each month just for you and maybe try shopping in the sales. It might work?! Good luck x
#ABitOfEverything
Moipone Islam
Hi Izzie
That’s a good idea putting money aside and I love sales too.
Thank you 🙂
Charlene
Got to admit I don’t have this problem, just come home with twice as many bags! #abitofeverything
Moipone Islam
Hahaha Charlene
That’s sounds awesome
Tracey Abrahams
I think the answer is to budget. Look at what your incomings and outgoings are and work out what you can set aside for your daughters needs each month and also what can be set aside for you. Your needs are important too.
Thanks for linking up with us and I hope you have a good christmas, Tracey xx #abitofeverything
Moipone Islam
Hi Tracey
That is a ,nice way of putting it I will try that, have a fabulous Xmas too
Thank you Xoxo 🙂 🙂 🙂
Lady Nym
It is hard and I get so much enjoyment from seeing my kids get something they love that it feels like it *is* something for me, you know?
But our kids need happy, fulfilled parents as much as anything else. It’s important not to forget about yourself.
#abitofeverything
Moipone Islam
Hi Lady Nym
That is so true we get happiness from seeing our kids happy and forget about us. Thank you for your input
Thanks for visiting xoxox 🙂
My Petit Canard
Oh I know just how you feel. I have exactly the same struggles when I go shopping and the only way that I manage to get around this and allow myself to purchase clothes and things for myself is to usually ask my husband to buy it for me, or ask for it as a birthday or christmas gift. I feel so guilty about buying things for myself so understand how difficult it is. But there definitely does come a point where you need to get yourselves things – so many things in my wardrobe have been in there for years. Maybe you can buy yourself one or two of the dresses as a compromise, or wait for the sales , or use any money/vouchers you recieve for christmas towards them. That would personally make me feel better about buying them, especially if I needed new clothes. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays again 🙂 Emily
Moipone Islam
Hi Emily
I feel so much better knowing that I am not the only one suffering from mommy bug, I will most definitely use your advise and capitalize on birthdays and Christmas.
Thank you for visiting and commenting Xoxo 🙂